古希臘有個神話傳説。俊美的青年男子Narcissus 對池塘裏自己的倒影一見鍾情,愛的難以自拔,在池塘邊癡迷于自己的倒影不肯離去,最終掉進池塘淹死了。
死後變成了花,這種花就叫Narcissus.,是春天裏最早開的花。見圖。這種花我也種過,但花期太短,幾天就沒了,不象玫瑰,可以四季常開。
從Narcissus一名衍生的narcissism 被醫學界定義為一種人格缺陷,又名自戀症。主要特徵如下:
翻譯成中文主要就是:
1,認為自己很特殊,很美麗,很有才;
2,極端喜歡和渴望他人對自己的讚賞;仇視不欣賞自己的人,並加以攻擊謾罵和詆毀;
3,對他人的批評則高度敏感,幻想自己被嫉妒,被攻擊;
4,只有羞恥感,沒有負罪感,換句話説就是自己永遠正確,凡事都是別人的錯。
更多請見英文,網上有關自戀症的資訊很多。這個故事告訴我們一個簡單的道理:
裝蒜很容易,正視自己很難。
患此症的人應及時就醫,不然一輩子痛苦不堪。
Symptoms of Narcissism Disorder
An obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchanges
Problems in sustaining satisfying relationships
A lack of psychological awareness (see insight in psychology and psychiatry, egosyntonic)
Difficulty with empathy
Problems distinguishing the self from others (see narcissism and boundaries)
Hypersensitivity to any insults or imagined insults (see criticism and narcissists, narcissistic rage and narcissistic injury)
Vulnerability to shame rather than guilt
Haughty body language
Flattery towards people who admire and affirm them (narcissistic supply)
Detesting those who do not admire them (narcissistic abuse)
Using other people without considering the cost of doing so
Pretending to be more important than they really are
Bragging (subtly but persistently) and exaggerating their achievements
Claiming to be an "expert" at many things
Inability to view the world from the perspective of other people
Denial of remorse and gratitude